My Opinions and Advice From Years Of Experience

ImageI am always being asked for advice on children’s issues and behavior issues. Several people have asked me to write a book with all my parenting tips and advice because when they tried what I suggested it truly helped them. I decided to do a blog instead because it is easier and much faster. In this blog  I am sharing my thoughts, opinions, and advice from my many years of experience, but I want to say emphatically that although these ideas have worked for me, each parent and child is an individual. My strongest advice to each of you is to read the articles and check out the books with an open mind, then make individual choices for yourself. I made my share of mistakes throughout the years, I’m hoping to save you and your child the heartache, but it is your turn to make your own mistakes. However, please do what is best for your child. They deserve the best you can give them because from the beginning…you are the most important person in their life and they are counting on you!

Education – Another Parental Responsibility

           Public School – Private School – or Homeschooling

Many parents are considering homeschooling as an alternative to public schools because of all the controversy with violence, drugs, and sexual exploration in our schools showing up regularly on the news. If you choose public school, be pro-active. Get involved in the school and your child’s classroom. Participate in recess monitoring, field trips, assisting the teacher with special projects, PTA, booster clubs, and anything else that is available. It is good to know what is going on with your child and their school.

Private schools are of course a great choice, but they very expensive.  You need to have a college fund saved for your child, so choosing a private school may not be practical. If you are one of the fortunate who can afford a private school education, please research the schools and choose one that has similar values to you…such as a Church School that teaches your particular religion and morals, or if your child shows talent in science choose a school that offers a great science curriculum…this should give you a good idea on what to look for in a private school. Again, be as active as possible in school activities, etc. Everyone’s family dynamics are unique! What is right for one family, may not be right for another family. 

If you are considering homeschooling your child or children, you need to check out the book below, and consider taking  the course so that your doubts are relieved. If you decide to home school, the course will help you step by step. There are homeschooling groups in most cities who regularly take field trips together, and compare notes, share curriculum, and generally support each other. Consider having the other parent, friend or relative teach one or more of the courses (for instance, Daddy excels in math, have him teach this class). After all, children in public school may have several teachers in any school year.

While traveling with your child  they can learn to read a map and of course they learn some geography, history, art, social studies, etc. Take advantage of all opportunities. Play the “Alphabet Game” as a family while in the vehicle. Rules for the game: Start with “A”, anyone can find a word that starts with “A” but must be outside the vehicle. Then proceed through the alphabet. Getting everyone  to participate makes the game more fun.  Best of all, .the children are actually reading the road signs and billboards that are going  by quickly, this speeds up their reading and improves their attention span. Since the game is not a contest between the children, there is less chance of squabbling and more family team building.  Fun while learning!

Homeschooling may be a great educational choice for your children, but if you are just getting started, you may have more questions than you have answers.  And perhaps a lot of enthusiasm, but not a lot of direction.  That can change starting today! Homeschooling ABC’s

Wikipedia Has A Lot To Offer On Parenting

A lot of research has been done on parenting by Wikipedia and it is very informative on what parenting means and the different stages of our children from pregnancy thru adulthood. Check this out, and never again allow anyone to say you are “just a stay-at-home Mom (or Dad in some cases)”. As I’ve always said, parenting is a full time job if you do it right.. Food for thought!

Toddlers, Terrible Two’s: Are You Having Fun Yet?

Toddlers are just young small people who are learning what is acceptable and what is not acceptable in the world around them. Communication is a two-way street, even for “young small people”. Your tone of voice says everything to your toddler at first, before they learn to communicate well. Try not to overuse the word “NO” (if you need to use it at all), after a while the toddler will block you out and you have lost the battle. Try re-directing your toddler, get them interested in doing something else. Using your enthusiastic tone of voice, say something like “Hey, why don’t we color this picture, look…I will help you!” The tools to communicating with your toddler effectively are here for you, try positive communication and watch how much happier you and your toddler will be.
A toddler’s behavior is driven by Emotion, NOT Logic. Small children do not have the ability to use logic, so they act purely from emotion. In order to influence your child’s behavior, you MUST have rapport first. Rapport simply means having an emotional connection to another person. There are LOTS of ways to create this crucial emotional bridge before you can change your child’s behavior. Language and tone of voice  are powerful tools and there are a bunch of tactics you need to learn to create the outcomes you want. A happy well-behaved toddler leads to a happy family all around.
Communication with toddlers is the key to good behavior. Your toddler’s speech is important because the frustration he/she feels when they can not communicate their feelings effectively. Building the relationship with your toddler is like having a solid foundation to your home. A solid relationship foundation makes the school age years, the pre-teen years, and teenage years flow easier and a much happier, emotionally healthier family. Try this book, at least look to see if it might help you. Now work on  building that bridge that will carry you through the school age, pre-teen, and teen years with respect. How To Help Your Child Learn To Talk Better In Everyday Activities

Happy, Respectful Children-Loving, Responsible Parents

Don’t kid yourself, from the minute your “precious bundle of joy” is placed in your arms, you have a lifetime committment. In order to succeed you must be ever vigilant to safety issues. You are responsible for performing guidance, stimulating education and recreational opportunities, as well as maintaining health and nutritional needs. This is a 365 day a year committment for 18-21 years (at least). Why not make it fun for all concerned?
We want our children to be respectful and have self-respect, as well as good self-esteem so that they can stand up against peer pressure. There are books that show us the way to promote happy healthy family dynamics where our children listen to us, show respect, parents have the tools they need to help our children prepare for their future, and everyone is happier for it!  I have placed one of these books on here that helped me with my foster children (the hard to place children as well)…I hope it helps you too.  Democratic Parenting Smiles all around!